Comments on: The Interesting Thing About Being Dominant http://theunapologeticmexican.org/elmachete/2009/04/20/the-interesting-thing-about-being-dominant/ Where Manifest Destiny Goes to Die Fri, 23 Mar 2012 17:53:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Malicia http://theunapologeticmexican.org/elmachete/2009/04/20/the-interesting-thing-about-being-dominant/comment-page-1/#comment-2509 Malicia Tue, 21 Apr 2009 15:44:54 +0000 http://theunapologeticmexican.org/elmachete/?p=2638#comment-2509 I agree with both Nezua and Francisco. It's hard for me to imagine being an immigrant mother like Ms. Ruis holding down two jobs and feeling that shame on top of it. She's taking on another two jobs - one, dealing with the shame and two, having to explain to other people that they're wrong. And if you include being a mother, that's a heck of a lot to handle. I've never been through a situation that tough but I have felt ashamed for stuff I didn't do. It's easy to make someone feel like everything is their fault. And the woman in this story is having to work hella hard to fight that feeling, but she has to in order to be able to stand up for herself and her child. I guess you're right, Francisco, shame is a human trait. But if we're going to have to deal with it, and there's so much all ready, it's a good idea to try and not add any more. I agree with both Nezua and Francisco.

It’s hard for me to imagine being an immigrant mother like Ms. Ruis holding down two jobs and feeling that shame on top of it. She’s taking on another two jobs – one, dealing with the shame and two, having to explain to other people that they’re wrong. And if you include being a mother, that’s a heck of a lot to handle.

I’ve never been through a situation that tough but I have felt ashamed for stuff I didn’t do. It’s easy to make someone feel like everything is their fault. And the woman in this story is having to work hella hard to fight that feeling, but she has to in order to be able to stand up for herself and her child.

I guess you’re right, Francisco, shame is a human trait. But if we’re going to have to
deal with it, and there’s so much all ready, it’s a good idea to try and not add any more.

]]> By: Franciso Lopez http://theunapologeticmexican.org/elmachete/2009/04/20/the-interesting-thing-about-being-dominant/comment-page-1/#comment-2507 Franciso Lopez Tue, 21 Apr 2009 05:56:18 +0000 http://theunapologeticmexican.org/elmachete/?p=2638#comment-2507 Well shame or verguenza is a human trait...nothing wrong with having it, it is actually a good thing. The problem when others try to impose it upon your or in this case US! Growing up being "illegal" was a family secret, I remember filling out a science fair project entree form and how terrified I felt when I encountered the line that asked for a social security number. Today? Yeah, I was mojado, Y QUE? That is a barrier that we overcame and I'm stronger and kinder because of it. It's my story and I no longer consider t a negative. Breaking barriers taht is the stuff that heroes do on the regular. A poco no NeZua...simon que si! Well shame or verguenza is a human trait…nothing wrong with having it, it is actually a good thing. The problem when others try to impose it upon your or in this case US!
Growing up being “illegal” was a family secret, I remember filling out a science fair project entree form and how terrified I felt when I encountered the line that asked for a social security number. Today? Yeah, I was mojado, Y QUE? That is a barrier that we overcame and I’m stronger and kinder because of it. It’s my story and I no longer consider t a negative. Breaking barriers taht is the stuff that heroes do on the regular.
A poco no NeZua…simon que si!

]]> By: nezua http://theunapologeticmexican.org/elmachete/2009/04/20/the-interesting-thing-about-being-dominant/comment-page-1/#comment-2506 nezua Mon, 20 Apr 2009 21:35:12 +0000 http://theunapologeticmexican.org/elmachete/?p=2638#comment-2506 i hear you...i guess i dont want people to have shame, carry shame. but when certain groups have none at all and others carry theirs for them, ugh. i hear you…i guess i dont want people to have shame, carry shame. but when certain groups have none at all and others carry theirs for them, ugh.

]]> By: Jaime McLeod http://theunapologeticmexican.org/elmachete/2009/04/20/the-interesting-thing-about-being-dominant/comment-page-1/#comment-2505 Jaime McLeod Mon, 20 Apr 2009 21:26:58 +0000 http://theunapologeticmexican.org/elmachete/?p=2638#comment-2505 Agree with your sentiments. Shame about oneself is always heartbreaking. This Anglo does often wish she owned a t-shirt that said "We're not all bad!" But, no, I don't think it's a common sentiment. Mostly, I just encounter defensiveness along the lines of "Why you gotta bring up old stuff? I've never had any slaves. I didn't shoot any Indians." Bring up white privilege and the eyes glaze over ... Agree with your sentiments. Shame about oneself is always heartbreaking. This Anglo does often wish she owned a t-shirt that said “We’re not all bad!” But, no, I don’t think it’s a common sentiment. Mostly, I just encounter defensiveness along the lines of “Why you gotta bring up old stuff? I’ve never had any slaves. I didn’t shoot any Indians.” Bring up white privilege and the eyes glaze over …

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