Comments on: ¡Oye! I Contain Muxtitudes!

By: nezua

nezua — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 19:04:40 +0000

jaja! groovy. i have to look into him. thanks for the tip, arban!

By: Arban

Arban — Wed, 18 Nov 2009 11:31:19 +0000

Wow, this is so cool. I knew there is a similar culture in India, but not Mex. You might love the work of Tino Rodriguez, he is my favourite contemporary painter. He is like the gay son of Frida and Diego.

By: nezua

nezua — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 02:59:19 +0000

that made me laugh. and think. thanks.

By: NancyP

NancyP — Tue, 09 Dec 2008 06:45:00 +0000

Thanks for the interesting post. When I was a teenager, I wished that I was male because of the privilege of being taken seriously, having self-confidence to the point of feeling entitlement, and having career opportunities (ok, this was a while back), but never saw the psychic price of conformity to male stereotype. It’s probably a lot easier (in the US) being an aloof soft butch egghead woman than being a reserved slightly effeminate egghead man.

By: Links at Racialicious - the intersection of race and pop culture

Links at Racialicious - the intersection of race and pop culture — Mon, 08 Dec 2008 16:01:00 +0000

[...] takes on the concept of masculinity: Men (as boys) are “asked” to join the oppression (under great threat of both social [...]

By: nezua

nezua — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 21:24:12 +0000

thank you for letting me know it worked for you, bluecanary. this is just one more area i’m working at understanding, sort of talking it out as i go. important part of the journey, your feedback is helpful.

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comrade prof! good to see you here.

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thank you charles and malicia and everyone for your comments, always love reading your thoughts. john, i make all my graphics, it’s part of my work too at xolagrafik.com thanks

By: bluecanary

bluecanary — Sun, 30 Nov 2008 21:15:52 +0000

Thanks so much for this post. What I know is that we need to talk about how men are hurt by misogyny, and we need to stop thinking about gender as dichotomous, male vs. female. But so often I am unable to adequately express this. You do so eloquently and expressively. Thank you again.

By: Comrade PhysioProf

Comrade PhysioProf — Thu, 27 Nov 2008 23:40:03 +0000

That’s totally fucking cool! I wonder if any cishetmale dudes also dress up like women for the festival? I would totally love to!

BTW, I am here via linkage from Jaded Hippy.

By: charles

charles — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 21:37:13 +0000

Thank you Nezua, as always. Men who are willing and talented enough to help us unpack these hideous restrictive destructive gender rules/roles are too few and too far between. Thanks for standing up and speaking out.

In light of recent events, i was also intrigued by Malicia’s comment:
“I also liked the vid of the Polynesians in Kai’s comment. They were very relaxed, as one word Nez used to describe how men aren’t allowed to be. Stress is bad for your blood pressure and health overall, people around you subconciously adopt your stress and have to conciously try not to, it’s nothing to aim to be.”
This reminds me of the new and very different role model all of us in America have been given (by the Gods/Goddesses?). One who’s best-known characteristic is his coolness under fire, his ability to stay calm when it seems the world is falling in around us. His calmness, like our stress, is contagious.
Ah! To live in a world with male role models like Nez and President Obama! I’m usually a major pessimist, but even i “got to admit it’s getting better.”

By: Malicia

Malicia — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 06:24:28 +0000

I really enjoyed this post. I also liked the vid of the Polynesians in Kai’s comment. They were very relaxed, as one word Nez used to describe how men aren’t allowed to be. Stress is bad for your blood pressure and health overall, people around you subconciously adopt your stress and have to conciously try not to, it’s nothing to aim to be. I think I have been trained to see being stressed as something that will earn me a prize – like it must be a result of me doing something important, good, and productive. Seeing those women, and the breath of fresh air they bring, reminds me how important beauty and other things that take us out of stress-more are, and that they’re not trivial to society. Stress gives people heart-attacks, maybe without people who take the time to add a little beauty to the world society would have a heart-attack, too.

Thanks for speaking your truth, Nezua.